There was a time I thought I was going to be one of those bloggers who would write an entertaining blog that people would love to read.
Yeah. No. Not so much.
And I don't want to complain about all the stuff I'm juggling, because heck, I do enough of that already on this blog. However, this is mainly an art-focused blog (with some design, psychology, and philosophy thrown in), and as we've accepted, art's been scarce on my end, at least the public stuff.
So for those readers who haven't abandoned all hope of seeing new art from me or of reading something of interest on this blog, I kindly offer the last book I finished (this was for my psychopharmacology class, so it leans a lot towards the brain science side of psychotherapy): The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog.
It's difficult to read because of some gruesome details (this book is about maltreated and traumatized children's experiences, and what we learn from them), so be forewarned if you decide to pick it up.
On the other hand, it was an enlightening read. It gave me a clue to many of my own behaviors and choices in life, as well as the behaviors and choices of those around me (especially children).
In the field of psychotherapy, it's unfortunate that children are often treated as mandated clients ("forced into therapy"), with few rights to their own emotions, thoughts, or processes. It's as if psychotherapy is treated like a bitter medicine for them to swallow, whether in the form of boot camps or even well-meaning interventions that involve coercing children into feeling emotions or remembering memories they're not ready to feel or process.
Adults, although they can also be treated poorly by our profession, at least have a bit more power in most situations: they can stop therapy, fire the therapist, report unethical behavior, etc. That's if they're not court-mandated or pressured by family and friends to participate in therapy against their will.
And that's one of the keys in good therapy: participation. Seriously--can there even be therapy without it? And if there could, would it even be ethical?
When I've discussed this issue with other therapists and fellow interns/trainees, I've gotten the response that children need structure.
Sure, I wouldn't argue that. After all, we're mammals, and the nature of our young is that they're born immature and require parenting in order to grow, develop, and socialize properly (this is in the book).
The thing is, I think anybody coming into psychotherapy asks for structure: the length of the session, what's okay to express (any thoughts, feelings, internal experiences; not so much on the physical actions if they're hurtful), how to "do" therapy, etc.
I get that children and adults are different. Physiologically, neurologically, you name it. What I'm saying, though, is that no matter the difference, I treat everyone with respect.