Saturday, May 09, 2009

The making of a Daily Success

I want to give more background to my Daily Successes, so that others can understand what makes them successes.

To begin with, success is personally defined. My successes are relative to me and yours are to you.

That means if I hate getting my mail and I got my mail today instead of putting it off, that's a success.

If you hate doing laundry but you did it regardless of how you felt (emotional congruence in psych-speak), that's a success.

For some people, getting out of bed is a success, and it's nobody's business to judge whether that's a "worthy" success or not. There's enough judging in the world that I think we can afford to focus some healthy attention on ourselves.

On some days, it's mind-grindingly hard for me to come up with even one success. I have pretty high standards for myself (which is to say, I'm still practicing and learning self-acceptance).

It's worth it to struggle, though. It shows me the state of my mind, and what I think about succeeding at something every day.

But just think of it! Three successes a day! If I'd been thinking like this a decade ago, I'd probably be ruling the world by now or at least feeling good about life (and myself) a lot more often.

Anyway, so some background. I might add these to each Daily Successes posting as I go, or I might add them sporadically like Easter Eggs on a lawn. I don't want to justify why something's a success, but to give my readers an idea of why it's a success to me I think is encouraging and gives meaning to "I flossed today."

That said, I want you to know it's taking a bit of guts (and not narcissism I don't think) to post my Daily Successes in public. I could be embarrassed that I think getting mail is such a hassle! However, I'm sharing my successes because I think it's important to be another voice for positive focus and change; one baby step at a time and eventually we'll all be running.

So, why is it a success for a professional artist like myself that I handed out my art show postcards to complete strangers?

Well, it's hard for me to talk to strangers. I've learned to do it, to be sociable, but I tend to be shy about my own work. We're not taught to talk about ourselves--it's seen as boastful.

But self-promotion is necessary for the self-employed artist, so each card I hand out is a success (and I'm damned proud of it) that challenges my shyness and residual shame about being an artist and making art.

Thanks to LH of
She Sews Seashells for inspiring this post!

Invite Beauty,

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